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Why Live in Lasting Love

by | Feb 15, 2022 | Personal Development

In a world of uncertainty and fear, we get to live our lives in Lasting Love. We need this more now than ever before. Can you even imagine a world where we love unconditionally and without limits? This concept seems foreign to so many in our world, yet it is so important. So, “Why Live in Lasting Love?”

Love is the strongest power in this universe, yet so many of us live our lives withholding it from others and living in hate rather than in love. It has gotten so commonplace that at times we do not even recognize we are doing it.

For years I have been teaching 7 Traits to live by all the time. One of the Traits I teach is Lasting Love. This is such an important trait, as it will change everything in our lives!

I often find people are unwilling or unable to wrap their mind around this concept.  My question is this: “Are you living your life in Love without Limits consistently?”

I ask this question because we do not even realize that we have created limits to what love we put out there or how consistently we put it out there. Consciously or unconsciously, we allow ourselves to fall into the trap of limiting our love and allowing ourselves to let judgement, jealousy, or comparison sneak into our situation and then we no longer have Love without Limits. I promise you that if you will take an honest look at this and consider how you are doing life…a few tweaks could make all the difference in the world.

It is not only those things that effect whether we are living in love without limits, in fact there is quite a long list of things we can allow to get in the way. We feel like we are loving unconditionally when in reality we are not. Let me give you a list of some of the ones I would like you to consider:

  • Any form of abuse
  • Jumping to conclusions
  • Unrealistic Expectations
  • Frustrations and losing your temper.
  • Divorce, separation and splitting up
  • Holding grudges toward someone
  • Jealousy, judgement, and comparison
  • People feel less when they are around you
  • Discrimination, racism, inequality, prejudice
  • People around you feel insignificant or unworthy
  • Co-workers drive you crazy and annoy you
  • People feel judged by you, even the first time meeting them.
  • You lack patience with yourself and others or their opinions or beliefs
  • Gossip, back biting, being unsupportive and speaking ill of others
  • Your child cannot play with a child down the street because they have a different belief system then you 
  • A child feels like they are not loved completely if their grades are not high enough, bedroom is not picked up, chores done right, etc.

This is not a comprehensive list, yet if you will read it and consider the ones that jump out at you and create your own list of perhaps a few you should let go of, your life will be more peaceful, powerful, feel complete and filled with joy and Lasting Love. 

All the ones listed above are living your life in Limited Love. Allowing love to be conditional only holds you back and does not allow for you to live up to your full potential. It hurts YOU. Holds YOU back. Not the other way around. Yes, there are benefits to the other person receiving love from you, but seriously, it is important for you to recognize that withholding love, real love, punishes you and your relationships.

Even though that is quite a list, it is just a drop in the bucket. The easiest way to know if you are falling into the trap of limited love is to ask yourself this question: Will this end with lasting love? If the answer is no, you are in limited love.

Now, before you go all A-wall on me, let me also say that you do need to place boundaries around you and your loved ones. You do need to be aware and proactive in protecting yourself from others that are not living in Lasting Love and make sure that safety is a priority. But you also need to be on high alert to make sure that it is not just about you are being in judgement and falling into the trap of Limited Love.

How would I describe Lasting Love you might be asking…here is a list of things I believe it begins with:

  • Your actions come from your heart. You listen and you Act on those promptings.
  • You have Empathy, Humility, Honor, Sacrifice and Patience.
  • People feel it from you without even knowing you.
  • Others want to be like you and are not sure why.
  • Being a Positive Influence and creating Peace all around you.
  • It’s found in Sincere Service and being outward focused.
  • It is shown in your actions, as actions speak louder than words.
  • It is shown through Genuine Gratitude.
  • Love that lasts no matter what.
  • Completely unconditional and constant.
  • Something you not only say, but you do.
  • It is given freely, openly, and consistently.
  • You show Forgiveness for others and for yourself.

Again, this is not a comprehensive list, but rather a beginning point for you to see. Add to this list. Find the things that stick out to you as an area that you could perhaps work a bit harder at. I do not give you this list to create feelings of guilt or shame, but rather to open your awareness and allow you to look at doing life differently. See what the possibilities are when you live from a space of lasting love.

Are we perfect at this? Heavens no! In fact, in the video today I talk about two different stories where I was out of alignment with Living in Lasting Love. It can be easy to fall into the trap of falling off the wagon and not being aware of how you are being. But, like I share in the video, you can easily get back on track and have a clean slate. It is easy to start over. You just get to decide to do it. It really is that simple. From the moment you decide to live your life more in Lasting Love, it begins. The decision is the turning point.

Awareness is Key! So why not begin today in being more conscious of how you are living your life and how your life could improve? Watch the video and find out “Why Live in Lasting Love.”