Do you“Love Yourself First?” We must have self-love, self-respect and have a healthy dose of confidence, right?
We have all heard it, at least a hundred times…we need to love our selves. But in all the clients I have ever worked with, this has not been the case. Across the entire board, self love is not at a healthy level.
We all know that we are our own worst critic and that we are harder on ourselves than we would ever be on anyone else. Think about it. Would you stay friends with someone that treated you as badly as you treat yourself or with someone who speaks as harshly as you speak to yourself; and you would not consider having a relationship with anyone that was as judgemental of you as you are with yourself! Yet we listen to what other people say to us and what their opinion is about us and they do not even have all of the information or the criteria to place such an assessment! In fact, something that I teach all the time is this: What others think about you or say about you is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! Let me quickly explain this. They are not living in your shoes, they do not have all the information, including the struggles you are going through or the challenges that you are facing at this instance. They also do not have your same values or beliefs and are judging you according to their own criteria. All they know is their own experience, beliefs, values and challenges. So how could they be accurate in an assessment of you? Crazy truth and yet we fall for it all the time!
A lot of our fear comes from our need to have outside validation or approval, as well as wanting to fit in, be liked and of course our essential need to belong. But along the way, we lose ourselves and our love for ourselves and begin to even hate ourselves. I know this from personal experience! For years I actually hated myself! I did care what other people thought and said. I let it control a big portion of my life. I struggled with judgement and self-sabotage. It is real! I know you know what I mean, or you would not still be reading this.
I went through years of working on this problem. I hated myself. It was not just disapproval or dislike…I hated myself. People think this only happens if you are not successful, but I call hogwash! I hated myself:
So what changed? Me. I had to decide that I had had enough and I wanted things to be different! I had to get to the point that the pain was bad enough that I would do something different. So, are you ready for change in your life? Are you willing to do things differently to have different results?
Is it time to change how you feel about you? Have you come to the realization that it is only hurting you and your loved ones that are closest to you by you feeling this way?
How often do we put conditions on our self love, such as:
How do you learn to love yourself? How do you begin to change this vicious cycle you are in? I am glad you asked. (ha ha) Here is a quick list of 13 Key things you can start doing today. 13 Keys to change the way you feel about yourself. Easy Peasy, right?
Watch my video episode as I go over these quickly and give you more insight and ideas on just what you need to do. Join me in loving yourself more. Allow yourself to see you as others see you. It is a great thing when you allow it to happen and find out just how amazing you are. It will also allow you to show others how to treat you!
In the video I share a story about my husband posting swimsuit modeling pictures on Facebook and how it opened up my mind at how many people really do need to hear my story. Thank you for being here with me. Good luck in your journey of loving yourself more freely and shifting to, “Love Yourself First!”