Serve Who You Love

THIS IS OUR 200TH EPISODE!

We are Celebrating Love with YOU this Week with our 200th Episode on YouTube!!!

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Have you evaluated your life and just how big of a role service plays? If you haven’t, I suggest you do. It is when we do not put service in the forefront that it becomes evident in our relationships and the deterioration of said relationships. With that being said, How is your relationship with your significant other? Could it use a little spicing up or perhaps a bit of attention? Service is huge in our lives and it plays a big role.

The ONE most important tip we share with you in our video and this blog on creating a better relationship, enhancing your relationship or building a stronger relationship is this: “Serve Who You Love!”

Let’s talk about this. My husband and I have been married for almost 35 years. That, in this day and age, is a long time and it has been Amazing! If I were to tell you the most important tool, advice or trick to keep that relationship awesome, it would be this: Take your focus off of yourself and focus on how you can serve your significant other!

Bill and I have not only learned this from our 35 years of marriage, our endless hours of trainings and certifications, but from working with hundreds of clients. It is the single most important skill to learn and will have immediate impact on your relationship. Strive to serve them in the way that fulfills them, the way they feel love. Find out their love language. If you don’t know what I am talking about, buy the book called, “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman.

Let me give you an example of what I am talking about. During the early years in our marriage, Bill and I had different recreational interests. As a way to put him first, serve him or focus on what would make him happy, I made sure that even when we closed on purchasing our first home, we had enough money to purchase him a four wheeler with what was left over from our down payment.

It would have been easy to want new furniture or drapes or a number of things, yet I was happy to get him an ATV that he wanted. After all, he had just worked really hard to earn the money to purchase us a home, right?

This became our focus for fun and family time. Over the next many years, since we had three sons in less than four years, boy things became our way to recreate. This meant tons of camping trips, motor homes, boats and toys. While I loved doing this with our family, this kind of vacationing requires tons of work, lots of packing and unpacking, lots of meals to make and clean up and a ton of dirt in my skirt! (Not to mention my face!) Yes, I got really good at driving my own four wheeler and jumping it off the tops of sand dunes, going fast and having tons of fun, but keep in mind that perhaps my own vision of vacation was someone else cooking for me, doing the dishes and making my bed!

I have even posted a couple pictures of the things that I bought for Bill as gifts. One was a Sandrail for his birthday, pictured above, and a rock crawler, pictured here as well, that I bought for him that same year for father’s day. I am not saying that purchasing gifts of this size is required, but my focus was on serving him in a way that made him happy.

It is not all about the gifts or the vacations! But I do want you to know that Bill in return has taken me on my own dream vacations to places like; The Bahamas, Hawaii, Cancun, Disney World, Six Cruises as well as a 10 day unbelievable trip to Costa Rica! (Just to name a few!) My point being that yes, we have played hard and have vacationed the way that both of us enjoy most. We have done the give and take. We have had great success in balancing how we serve each other in a way that makes the other feel loved and cared about the most.

Bottom line is that when you stop focusing on yourself and focus on your significant other first, you will find that they want to make you happy as well. It happens automatically. What you put out there comes back to you multiplied! This happens with even the smallest things. Consider things like what restaurant you go to for date night, what movie you want to see, who’s friends you spend the most time with, how you show them love and if you even know their love language! (The Five Love Languages is a great book, and great way to learn more about your significant person.)

Keep in mind, a quote that I say often: “It is the little things that you do on a consistent basis that will ultimately change your life!”~Kris Barney. This applies to everyday life more than anything. How are you serving this person in your life? Where is your focus and is it being used the most effectively?

Watch our episode “Serve Who You Love” today, as we share this tip with you as well as the two Big Fat Failures that are guaranteed to destroy your relationship!

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