Service plays a huge role in our lives. Have you ever evaluated your life and seen just how big of a role service plays? If you haven’t, I suggest you do. When we do not have service in the forefront of our lives, it becomes evident in our relationships and their deterioration. Considering that ask yourself this question, How is your relationship with your significant other? Could it use a little spicing up or perhaps a bit of attention? The MOST important tip we share with you today in our video and this blog on creating a better relationship, enhancing your relationship or building a stronger relationship is this: “Serve the One You Love!” Let’s talk about this a little. My husband and I have been married for over 33 years. In this day and age, that is a long time! It has been Amazing! But if I were to tell you the most important tool, we’ve used to keep that relationship awesome, it would be this: Take your focus off of yourself and focus on how you can serve your significant other!
Bill and I have not only learned this from our 33 years of marriage, our endless hours of training and certifications, but from working with hundreds of clients. It is the single most important skill to learn and will have immediate impact on your relationship. Strive to serve them in the way that fulfills them. Here is an example of what I am talking about. During the early years in our marriage, Bill and I had different interests in what we liked to do, and what types of vacations we took. In order to put him first, serve him and focus on what would make him happy, I made sure that even when we closed on our first home, we had enough money to also purchase him a four wheeler. It would have been easy to expect that money to go toward new furniture or drapes or other things for the house, but I wanted to get him the ATV that he wanted. After all, he had just worked really hard to earn the money to purchase us a home, right?
This quickly became our focus for fun and family time, especially since we had three sons in less than four years. Doing ‘boy things’ became our way to connect; tons of camping trips, motor homes, boats, and toys. While I loved doing this with our family, this kind of vacationing requires a lot of work, packing and unpacking, several meals to make and clean up and a ton of dirt in my skirt! (Not to mention my face!) Yes I got really good at driving my own four wheeler and jumping it off the tops of sand dunes, going fast and having SO MUCH of fun. You’ll see, in this post, a couple pictures of the things I have bought for Bill as gifts. One was a Sandrail for his birthday (pictured above), but keep in mind that my OWN vision of vacation was much different; someone else cooking for me, doing the dishes and making my bed! I have even posted a couple pictures of the things that I bought for Bill as gifts. One was a Sandrail for his birthday (pictured above) and a rock crawler (pictured here as well) that I got him that same year for father’s day. Gifts of this size are definitely not required, but I was that serving him in a way that made him happy, and that was my focus.
It is not all about the gifts or the vacations! But I do want you to know that Bill in return has taken me on my own dream vacations to places like; The Bahamas, Hawaii, Cancun, Disney World, Six Cruises as well as a 10 day unbelievable trip to Costa Rica this past summer! (Just to name a few!) My point, is that we have played and vacationed the way that both of us enjoy most. We have done the give and take, and have had a great balance making sure that we are serving the other in the way that makes them feel loved and cared about the most. The bottom line is that when you stop focusing on yourself first and focus on your significant other, you will find that they in turn want to make you happy. It happens automatically. What you put out there comes back to you multiplied! This happens with even the smallest things. Consider things like what restaurant you go to for date night, what movie you want to see, who’s friends you spend the most time with, how you show them love and if you even know their love language! (The Five Love languages is a great book, and great way to learn more about your significant person.)
Keep in mind, a quote that I say often: “It is the little things that you do on a consistent basis that will ultimately change your life!”~Kris Barney. This applies to everyday life more than anything. How are you serving this person in your life? Where is your focus and is it being used the most effectively? Watch our episode “Serve the One You Love” today. Not only do we share this tip with you, we also share the two Big Fat Failures that are guaranteed to destroy your relationship! We love sharing with you and hope that you have subscribed to our YouTube channel @ Kris Barney and joined our community at www.AllThingsPossible.biz to get access to the tools and tips that we share every week. Plus we have free gifts for you on our website that we hope you take advantage of. They will change your life!