How to Love Without Limits by Kris Barney

I teach 7 Traits to live by all the time. One of the Traits is Lasting Love. I often find people that are unwilling or unable to wrap their mind around this concept. My question for you is this: “Are you living your life in Love without Limits consistently?”

I ask this question because many times we do not even realize that we have created limits to what love we put out there. Consciously or unconsciously we allow ourselves to fall into the trap of limiting our love and allowing ourselves to let judgement, jealousy or comparison sneak into our situation and then we no longer have Love without Limits.

Now, it is not only those things that affect whether we are living in love without limits, in fact there is quite a long list of things we can allow to get in the way and feel like we are loving unconditionally when in reality, we are not. Let me list some of these I would like you to consider:

• Unrealistic Expectations
• Any form of abuse
• Jealousy, judgement and comparison
• Making people feel less
• Jumping to conclusions
• Holding grudges toward someone
• Discrimination, racism, inequality, prejudice.
• People around you feel insignificant or unworthy
• Co-workers drive you crazy and annoy you
• Frustrations and losing your temper.
• Divorce, separation and splitting up
• People feel judged by you, even the first time meeting them.
• You lack patience with yourself and others
• People feel insignificant or unworthy when around you
• Gossip, back biting, being unsupportive and speaking ill of others
• Your child cannot play with a child down the street because they have a different belief system then you
• A child feels like they are not loved completely if their grades are not high enough, bedroom is not picked up, chores done right, etc.

This is not a comprehensive list, yet if you will read it and consider the ones that jump out at you and create your own list of perhaps a few you should let go of, your life will be more powerful, more complete and filled with Lasting Love.

All of the traits listed above describe living your life in Limited Love. Allowing love to be conditional only holds us back and does not allow us to live up to our full potential.

Even though that is quite a list, it is just a drop in the bucket. The easiest way to know if you are falling into the trap of limited love is to ask yourself this question: Will this end with lasting love? If the answer is no, you are in limited love. Now, before you go all AWOL on me, let me also say that you do need to place boundaries around you and your loved ones. You do need to be aware and proactive in protecting yourself from others that are not living in Lasting Love and make sure that safety is a first priority. But you also need to be on high alert to make sure that it is not just about you being in judgement and falling into the trap of Limited Love.

How would I describe Lasting Love you might be asking? Here is a list of things I believe it begins with:

• Love that lasts no matter what.
• Completely unconditional and constant.
• Something you not only say, but do.
• Given freely, openly and consistently.
• People feel it from you without even really knowing you.
• Others want to be like you and are not sure why.
• Found in Sincere Service and being outward focused.
• Empathy, Humility, Honor, Sacrifice and Patience.
• Forgiveness for others and for yourself.
• Shown through Genuine Gratitude.
• Shown in your actions, as actions speak louder than words.

Again, this is not a comprehensive list, but rather a beginning point for you to see. Add to this list. Find the things that stick out to you as an area that you could perhaps work a bit harder at. I do not give you this list to make you feel guilty or ashamed, but rather to open up your awareness and allow you to look at doing life a bit differently. See what the possibilities are when you live from a space of lasting love.

Are we perfect at this? Heavens no! In fact in the video today I talk about two different stories where I was out of alignment with Living in Lasting Love. It can be easy to fall into the trap of falling off the wagon and not being aware of how you are being. But, like I share in the video, you can easily get back on track and have a clean slate. It is easy to start over. You just have to decide to. It really is that simple. From the moment you decide to live your life more in Lasting Love, it begins.

Awareness is Key! So why not begin today in being more conscious of how you are living your life and how your life could improve? Watch the video and find out “How to Love without Limits.”