Achieving success is something we all strive for. We have a genuine need to feel accomplished and to see our dreams come to fruition. We live to have our dreams become reality and want deep within ourselves to be successful.
We strive for the day that we see our efforts and hard work pay off and reap the benefits of our goals. The will to want things to be better, to be more successful and to achieve the next level has been instilled within us and we strive to have this success almost every day.
My question for you is this: How do you feel when a family member, a co-worker, a friend or even just an acquaintance reaches this goal before you? Do you celebrate with them, have excitement and happiness or are you discouraged, frustrated and filled with emotions that do not build you up?
Recently I was able to attend the National Speakers Association National Convention. This is a huge event with phenomenal speakers, entertainers and tons of content. This is also a big time for Celebration of those who have achieved their CSP (Certified Speaking Professional) Award. This is the highest achievement in the speaking world as a professional speaker. We have one other award that is the CPAE (Council of Peers Award for Excellence, also known as the Hall of Fame Speaker Award.) This is awarded by your peers and voted on.
The CSP award is difficult to earn and requires a lot to get it. There is a very low percent of speakers out in our world who have actually earned this award. This particular year, my dear friend and accountability partner had earned this award. I was thrilled for her and could hardly wait to celebrate her success! I also knew many others in this year’s group of 41 to receive this award. This was a huge day for several friends! This was exciting and just over the top!!!
After the “Crossing the Stage and receiving their Medal Ceremony” there was a beautiful congratulatory reception for their chosen close family and friends and of course a photographer catching all of the wonderful moments. It was incredible! I was thrilled for all of these people and their accomplishment. After the reception they are to wear their medal for the entire conference and be recognized by everyone for the next several days. This is a great thing, as everyone (especially those who have previously earned it and amazing Hall of Fame Speakers) recognizes them and makes a big deal out of it. This is a great example of how celebrating others in their finest hour is to be done.
Here is the raw and real truth for you. (If you have been with me for long, you know that I am authentic and real and tell it like it is.) As this celebration went on and I saw how amazing it was for everyone that earned their CSP Award I began to feel “less than”. I began to feel inadequate and unsuccessful as I compared where I was and the success I was having to theirs. I felt left behind and I found myself with many negative emotions and frustrations. Seriously, I KNOW BETTER THAN TO DO THIS! Yet, here I was in comparison. I KNOW that Comparison is the thief of Joy! I know that when we are in accomplishment mentality we are more successful. This includes others accomplishments! Why was I allowing this to happen? Why was I feeling left out, passed over and not good enough?
As much as we do not want to hear it, IT IS A CHOICE! I promise you, in my “depressed and frustrated” state I did not want to know that I was choosing how I was feeling. I did not want to feel that way. Yet, in the middle of this incredible experience, I was allowing myself to spiral out of control. I was allowing the negative feelings to win, the tears to flow and the heavy weight to land in my own chest.
Have you felt this in your life? Why do we do this? We know better! Stop comparison. Stop jealousy. Stop beating yourself up!
We need each other to succeed! When one person wins, we all win! Consider implementing these ideas and ways to embrace Celebrating others accomplishments and how it can benefit you and your success.
Allow the Accomplishment Mentality to push you forward and forge you into your own successes. Conceptualize your own path and the power in your journey. Be OK with being you!
Embrace the inspiration of their success to motivate you and move you forward. See their success from the eyes of it is possible and I can do this too.
Love others fully. Truly care about other people. Build strong relationships with joy in their success. Have their best interest at heart. This will show up for you in a bigger way.
Embody the belief that it is possible and accept their success. Let it fill you with hope and determination to reach your own dreams and possibilities.
Positivity will always win! Your attitude will make or break you. Our attitude, demeanor, and personality contribute significantly to our ability to succeed. Rejoice and watch how it removes disbelief and allows us to persevere to our own victory. Yes, BE in Happiness.
Strengthen your relationship, both personally and professionally when you celebrate their wins and victories. See their accomplishments rather than their failures and embrace accomplishment mentality as it will move everyone forward in a big way.
When we praise others and see them for what they are accomplishing, we are seen as being supportive, encouraging, caring and kind. Praise often. Recognize and celebrate for yourself, your significant relationships, your children, your friends and yes your co-workers and even your competitors. This is important. You will be amazed how building others up will pay huge dividends to yourself.
Yes, success is best when we are able to enjoy it with others.
Celebration and success go hand in hand. You will never watch a person crossing that finish line in first place shrug it off as if it were nothing. Stand tall. Throw your arms in the air and shout praises to your accomplishments and to the accomplishments of others!
It really is a choice. Are you going to choose to celebrate others and stay in accomplishment mentality?
We strive for the day that we see our efforts and hard work pay off and reap the benefits of our goals. The will to want things to be better, to be more successful and to achieve the next level has been instilled within us and we strive to have this success almost every day.
The CSP award is difficult to earn and requires a lot to get it. There is a very low percent of speakers out in our world who have actually earned this award. This particular year, my dear friend and accountability partner had earned this award. I was thrilled for her and could hardly wait to celebrate her success! I also knew many others in this year’s group of 41 to receive this award. This was a huge day for several friends! This was exciting and just over the top!!!
behind and I found myself with many negative emotions and frustrations. Seriously, I KNOW BETTER THAN TO DO THIS! Yet, here I was in comparison. I KNOW that Comparison is the thief of Joy! I know that when we are in accomplishment mentality we are more successful. This includes others accomplishments! Why was I allowing this to happen? Why was I feeling left out, passed over and not good enough?
Yes, success is best when we are able to enjoy it with others.