Are you keeping love alive in your relationships? Do you know how important it is to keep love alive in all your relationships? Love is a powerful thing and many of us take it for granted. We should be paying close attention to it as it will change everything for you!
When we get into extended love relationships like being parents, siblings, children, our own parents, close friendships and even with our significant other, we begin to do some or all these things:
- Take them for granted
- Get too comfortable
- Stop being our best self
- Become selfish
- Want things to be our way
- Stop trying to impress them
- Take it out on them
- Have expectations
- Not show up how we do for others
- Seriously, this list could go on and on!
What we have found after working with hundreds of clients and even in our own lives is that after we get past that first initial part of the relationship, we tend to become so familiar with each other that sometimes we do not show up as our best self.
Let me ask you this: “How do you act when you first start liking someone, or how do you act when you want someone to like you?”
When we want someone to like us or we begin to like someone, we show up as our best self. We are interested in everything they are about. We are fun, exciting and funny, right?
We tend to overlook many things we do not care for and we tend to be very tolerant. Yet as time passes, and love develops, we can become lackadaisical or even lazy in the relationship and stop trying to perhaps impress or even show up at our best.
The biggest tip we can give you today on keeping love alive is to always Remember to stay in LIKE with them. The best relationships are ones that not only love you, but the ones that also like you!
When we consciously pay attention to how we are acting or treating those we love most, those that we spend the most time with, we are able to have the “REALITY CHECK” to see if we truly are being our best self.
If we are not, we can change that! We can easily do a reality check and choose to act differently if we are not being the way we would want to be.
It is a choice to be in a good mood or a bad mood. We must decide. It is the same with how we act in our relationships. Make the decision to strive to be your best self and to be that person that you deserve to be.
This is not about changing the other person, it is about changing you, being aware of how you are showing up and being willing to look at how you could do it differently. Spend quality time with each other and do things together that bring you happiness and remind you of why you fell in love with this person to begin with. Seriously, GROW in that love for each other and keep it alive!
When we focus on how we would want the other person to feel, it becomes easy to see how we could do things a bit differently and have a much happier experience. We get to keep it alive and strive to allow ourselves to grow as an individual and grow together as a relationship whether it is a significant other, a child or a neighbor and friend. We get to identify how we can keep that love alive both for ourselves and for that other person. We get to be the person that they fell in love with and wanted to spend more time with. As we all grow and change and are at different stages in our lives, it is crucial that we focus on how we are nourishing those relationships and how we are showing up.
Do not forget that as we talk about these different “relationships” there is one very important one to remember and that is to Love Yourself. Many times, we get so caught up with our outside relationships that we overlook being good to ourselves. Focus on self-care, watch your thoughts and language about yourself and be kind to yourself when you make mistakes or feel that you have not shown up in a way that you wanted to.
Watch our episode today that we filmed right on Sunset Beach in California. Watch as we share with you the biggest tip to Keep Love Alive all while watching the waves come in and crash on the beach! Nature is a great way to ground yourself and to be at peace as you Keep Love Alive!