Loss and grief can present in many forms. Most often, grief affects us when we lose a loved one. But there are other forms of grief – almost every aspect of our life has changed due to the ongoing worldwide pandemic.
When we lose something important to us, we naturally grieve the loss. Oftentimes we don’t recognize that loss as grief and all that emotional energy goes unrecognized, leaving us with a sense that something is very wrong, but we don’t identify the reason why.
The following is a list of just some of the things you may have lost due to COVID-19:
It is obvious to us that we miss these things, but do we recognize our inner feelings of turmoil as feelings of grief? Once we can identify those feelings as grief, then we can begin the healing process. You’ve heard the saying that “Time heals all wounds.” But do we really want to suffer that long? There are many ways to speed up the process of healing from grief and loss
Bill Barney uses a variety of techniques and processes to help people quickly overcome and heal the heavy feelings of grief and loss. Most of his clients experience a dramatic relief in just the first session. CLICK HERE to watch this week’s video, “How to Heal from Loss by Bill and Kris Barney” This was recorded live at a public event and as you can plainly see in the video, this was totally unscripted. You will see in real time just how quickly it is possible to heal from grief.
If you are not familiar with the ‘5 Stages of Grief,’ refer to the meme above. Where do you feel you are in the grieving process? When we have a sudden loss in our lives, it is unrealistic to think that you should be grief-free the next day or even the next week. We need to feel and experience the various emotions, so we can process them in a healthy way. Each person is unique and will move through the stages differently from other people. There is not a precise formula for how fast you should move through the 5 Stages of Grief.
The best rule of thumb I could give you is this – Are you ready to let go and move forward? I have seen many clients who were subconsciously holding onto their grief as a way to validate the value and significance of the person they lost.
I remember doing a 5-minute healing process with a man who had lost his son to an overdose 18 months previous. When I asked him how he felt after the process, his first response was, “I feel guilty.” When I asked him to talk about the guilt, he explained that he had been carrying this unbearable pain for so long, that to suddenly have it gone felt strange and he felt guilty for not having the pain. The next time I talked to him, he told me that when he went by his son’s graveside, he felt peace instead of pain. His temporary feelings of guilt were just him taking a moment to adapt to a new paradigm of feeling peace instead of pain.
Do you have emotional pain from the tragic death of a loved one? Have you lost someone and feel like you cannot go on? Perhaps you have lost a loved one to an illness, disease or a medical condition, yet you still feel pain, sorrow and depression. CLICK HERE to watch this week’s video, “How to Heal from Loss by Bill and Kris Barney”.
Many years ago, I went through an exceedingly difficult time in my life. I had five deaths of loved ones in about two years. I lost my mother-in-law, my friend, my twin brother, my Grandfather and my cousin. All five were extremely difficult for me, four of them were under 42 years of age and tragic, but two of them left me feeling as though I no longer had a reason to go on in my life.
This picture to the left was my cousin Janet. We always said that we were not cousins, but sisters by choice. We went through many years of our adult lives where we were inseparable. She was actually the fifth death that I went through in that short period of time, but during that entire tough time, she was fighting an unbeatable battle with Cancer. When she died, I lost my sister, my best friend, my person. My world literally came crashing in when she died. I felt like I could not function, and pretty much my life stood still. I had to find help; I still had a husband and four children to live for. I had to go on.
Let me back up to the most tragic death I have ever experienced. That would have been February 8, 1999. In the picture to the right you can see my twin brother and I. This picture was taken on a cruise ship in 1998. My brother was incredible. He could do anything he set his mind to. He was a terrific husband and father to four great kids. Yet, on that cold day in February, he took his own life. He decided that the world would all be better off without him. He committed SUICIDE! My twin brother was dead at the age of 34.
You can imagine how this rocked my world. I felt as if half of me had died and was gone. It created pain and heartache that I cannot even explain. I spiraled into depression and sorrow that felt as if I could not get out of bed. My loss was too great. The guilt soared in me. Why didn’t I save him? How could I not see this coming? You can imagine my despair, the anguish and trauma I continually put myself through at that time.
I was so focused on my pain and grief from the loss of these cherished and foundational relationships in my life that I failed to see the value in the significant relationships that were still here with me. I still had my husband, truly my best friend, my four children and my parents. Not to mention my siblings and all of my extended family and friends who surrounded me. I refused to let them in to raise me up from my despair and sorrow. In fact, I was so negative and hard to be around I actually pushed them away. I was creating even more loss in my life in lost relationships and friends. I felt alone and I was creating that to be my reality.
With the loss of a loved one we suffer through many stages of grief. Some of these stages are healthy and natural feelings, yet some feel heavy, painful and unexpected. At the top of this blog are the five stages of Grief that doctors or therapists speak of. It is said that every person will go through each of these five stages at some level when going through the pain of the death of a loved one. There is no particular order, but you will go through all of them.
In addition to those five stages, it is quite common to also feel feelings of Shock, Confusion, Fear, Guilt, Loneliness, Sadness, Emptiness, Exhaustion, Pain, Foggy Headed, and No Will to Live.
When these feelings come into play, it is recommended to seek assistance in getting on top of it. That is why we are sharing this episode with you today. Not only have I had “Healing from Grief with Bill Barney”, but this episode shows you a live demonstration at An Evening of Healing with Bill Barney, where a volunteer had huge emotional issues with the sudden death of her father. She had been suffering for over 18 months from not only the tragic loss of her father, but the horrific accident that happened and the terrible memories and disturbing pictures in her head. She could feel actual physical pain in her heart. She had tried many things to get past this pain with no relief. Watch this episode to see how Intuitive Energy Healing can make a dramatic difference in your life and how much peace can easily be found!
I know how much this assisted me in my life during a time that I could not see how I could go on. “Healing from Grief with Bill Barney” assisted me to have memories that bring smiles to my face, have joy and peace in my heart and remember my loved ones for just how amazing they were. I feel blessed to have been able to have them in my life. You can feel this too! Watch this episode and then set up some time with Bill Barney to begin your healing from Grief today.
When we lose something important to us, we naturally grieve the loss. Oftentimes we don’t recognize that loss as grief and all that emotional energy goes unrecognized, leaving us with a sense that something is very wrong, but we don’t identify the reason why.
This picture to the left was my cousin Janet. We always said that we were not cousins, but sisters by choice. We went through many years of our adult lives where we were inseparable. She was actually the fifth death that I went through in that short period of time, but during that entire tough time, she was fighting an unbeatable battle with Cancer. When she died, I lost my sister, my best friend, my person. My world literally came crashing in when she died. I felt like I could not function, and pretty much my life stood still. I had to find help; I still had a husband and four children to live for. I had to go on.
guilt soared in me. Why didn’t I save him? How could I not see this coming? You can imagine my despair, the anguish and trauma I continually put myself through at that time.
When these feelings come into play, it is recommended to seek assistance in getting on top of it. That is why we are sharing this episode with you today. Not only have I had “Healing from Grief with Bill Barney”, but this episode shows you a live demonstration at An Evening of Healing with Bill Barney, where a volunteer had huge emotional issues with the sudden death of her father. She had been suffering for over 18 months from not only the tragic loss of her father, but the horrific accident that happened and the terrible memories and disturbing pictures in her head. She could feel actual physical pain in her heart. She had tried many things to get past this pain with no relief. Watch this episode to see how Intuitive Energy Healing can make a dramatic difference in your life and how much peace can easily be found!